Friday, June 12, 2015

Need for joy



There is a book that ranks with Mein Kamp and the Protocols of the Elders of Zion in its disparagement of Jewish people. It constantly threatens the entire Jewish people, sometimes destroys the morally weak ones, and always highlights their shortcomings. I am talking about the Torah itself, of course.  Perhaps, the greatest testament of its veracity is through the brutal honesty with which it scours the Jewish people; there is no sugar coating.  It is the way of the world to aggrandize victories and conveniently forget defeats, but not so here. In the book of Bamidbar, it is parsha after parsha of Jewish mishaps.  And none was quite as bad as the spies, where G-d is seemingly ready to give up on these people and start anew with Moses.[1] But, what went wrong and what was so bad about calling it the way they saw it? 

                A hint to an aspect of the problem is found in what is taught after the episode.  We are taught about the wine offering for a sacrifice when we get to Israel. It is a strange to bring this up now as this mitzvah is relevant to the land and no one is actually going to make it to the land outside of Joshua and Caleb.   The general rule is that the order of the Torah is significant. Meaning, in some way this teaching is a rectification of the sin.  So what is the importance of wine and why is it taught now? 

 Wine makes its way to many Jewish events: Shabbat, Marriage, Bris etc.  Why is wine always present? Wine’s function is to make us happy and happiness is not a goal of Judaism but a very important tool that helps us connect.  When a person is happy he expands and opens up.  On the other hand, a lack of happiness usually means that a person contracts.  A sign of depression is when people stop speaking to others. The Zohar states that a holiday meal without guests is worthless. Why? Because a holiday is a time of joy so naturally there is an expansion of one’s social circles. 

This same principle applies to our relationship with the land of Israel and G-d.  The land of Israel is called ‘eretz chemda’, the land of desire.  Prior to connection, one needs a desire to connect and that requires joy.  A person without joy doesn’t have a desire and that was part of the issue with the spies.   Behind their foul speech was a lack of desire and joy, and hence, the ability to expand their relationship with G-d which was the purpose of getting to the land.    

               


[1] Numbers 14:12

Friday, June 5, 2015

The place for extremism

 

                Everyone is extreme these days. People are extremely liberal, extremely conservative, and extremely not extreme. And people blame the other side for their extremism.  In fact, extremism is treated like a virus; it is a disease one can catch.  Just yesterday, a suspected impending terrorist was shot and people asked, ‘when was he radicalized’? A.k.A. when did he catch the extreme disease and who inflicted it? 

                The truth is quite the opposite.  Extremism is a natural human temperament.  People are looking to be one dimensional, uncomplex- extreme!  In chapter 4 of Maimonides’, ‘Eight chapters’, he delineates how to ‘cure’ the character of a person, which is naturally extreme.  He states that all good traits lie in the middle of two extremes, one extreme that goes too far and one extreme that doesn’t go far enough.  For example, a person should strive for temperance- don’t be too indulgent or too ascetic. Or a person should be generous without being too stingy or too extravagant.  It is finding that equilibrium that is challenging or being able to apply different angles at the right time.  But to be extreme is the natural state of a human being and one doesn’t catch it, one merely finds a place where he can express it.   However, there is an exception to the rule of extremes. There is one attribute that does require an extreme. 

                It says in verse 12:3 that Moses was not just humble, but ‘extremely humble’.[1]  Humility breaks the rule of the middle, it is a character trait that is meant to be extreme.  And, not surprisingly, it is the one area of life that it is hard to be extreme while in all other cases, extreme is the rule not the exception.  So what does it mean to be humble in an extreme way?  There are two parts. Part one is that a person realizes that all he has and achieves is a gift and not the result of some inherent greatness.  Therefore, the more he can view his life has as a series of gifts, the more humble he will be.  And second, it means that a person view his self as simple, and therefore, he can relate to everything and everyone.  As opposed to an arrogant self where a person sees himself in a certain light, particularly an exalted light, which then defines his interactions in how he relates to the world, and very often, limits them.  The goal of life is to be balanced and nuanced when it comes to ideas, but when it comes to the self, there is no end to how humble we can become. 
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[1] Maimonides says humility also follows the rule of balance in the ‘8 chapters’  but R’ Bachya says that humility is an exception to the rule. And it seems that an aspect of humility, even Maimonides agrees in chapter 4 of pirkei avos in mishna 4 that it breaks the rule.